Saturday, December 25, 2010

Sunday Kind of Loves 12.26.2010

This year was one of undeniable change. I've moved, made amazing friendships, and am pursuing my dreams. I'm alive... and if that's nothing to smile about, I don't know what is.

Being home for Christmas • traditional Christmas dinner of Pierogi & beet soup • seeing my dogs! • drinking out of Bodum glassware, you MUST get some • photoshoots with family • getting videos from my friends back home saying hello! • Christmas gifts • watching movies cuddled up in my bed • Knowing what I want • Feeling like LA is finally my home • pretty make up • my green hat that brings out my eyes (as a co-worker said) • Getting to see old friends/having reunions! •

Daily Outfit 12.26.2010

Greetings everyone! During Christmas I flew to Ohio to spend the holiday with my family. We went out and took some pictures of the whole family and I totally seized the opportunity to wear my winter coat that I miss so dearly (truth). I still have some shame/coyness so I made the family go inside while I got all narcissistic in front of my camera. This coat is vintage from Poland and was given to me by my grandmother. I was wearing a thin American Apparel t-shirt underneath and was sweating, I was so warm in it. I gotta admit. It's already so weird being around snow... but Christmas really IS the only time I want snow anyway... ;)
What I'm wearing:
Vintage Kozuch from Poland.
Quilted faux fur boots, Nike
Black denim, Fragile
Vintage faux fur hat (also from Poland)
Black gloves, Target
Black scarf, Forever21

Go to my flickr or to see them full-size.

Friday, December 24, 2010

Merry Christmas Y'all!

Have a good holiday today everyone and I hope you're spending it with your loved ones! As this is being posted, I'm actually en route to Ohio. I'm there until the 28th so there will be minimal updates.

Merry Christmas everyone!

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Last Click 12.24.2010

It's Christmas Eve! What are you doing here?! Well, you should totally be with your loved ones. I, however, am going to work then to an airport... on a red eye flight to Ohio. It is the first time I have been home since September so I am excited to see everyone I miss back home. But for now, I'll entertain myself with the interwebs. Here are some interesting clicks I've found this past week!

Sweet. Now go eat some cookies, drink some [soy]milk, and wait for Santa.
Love Letters & Paper Cranes,

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

The Rejection Myth

photo by kate o connor

I have decided I do not believe in rejection. It is a complete myth.

Pretty bold, eh? Does that mean that if someone says no, I will act as if I didn't hear them? No. I still know what 'no,' means and I know that I cannot force things to happen. I read something the other day in my current read, The Success Principles. Jack Canfield states that when you go for something and the answer turns out to be 'no,' it doesn't mean that you were rejected. It just means your life hasn't changed the way that you expected it to.

Let's say that you really like this guy. This dude tickles your fancy and you want to go out with him. You decide to be bold and ask him out. He says 'no,' and you walk (or maybe in my case, run) away with your tail tucked between your legs. You start arguing with yourself and asking questions that are completely unnecessary, only to have them begin eating away at your confidence. That scenario sucks because you totally stepped outside of yourself and you took a risk. You got the door shut on you, and now you're doubting if any guy would say yes to you (I've totally played that game). Guh, not pleasant.

But think of it this way; ready for it? It'll blow your mind. I love this.

So a 'no' is a 'no,' right? But if you think about what you were doing in your life before this clown said 'no' to you you'll realize that you weren't dating him before... and now that it is after, you still aren't dating him. Your life STAYED THE SAME.

Okay, now digest that. Feel it marinate in the innards of your brain. Your life was x before you did y, and now that you did y (but it didn't work); your life is still x. This works with almost every situation I can think of. Getting accepted into school, jobs, dating, etc.

Mind... blown. I love it. How simple!

I've had people say 'no,' to me tons of times (How many times have I stated this fact so far?). But that doesn't mean, 'never,' No doesn't mean that you are less of a person. You are still the same person with the same life (which you can always change!!). You can always think about why you were told no, but dwelling on it is forbidden! Unless you want to be eaten up by greedy, little self confidence monsters that make you assume the worst. It may seem like the end of the world at the time, but life continues on. You can only be rejected if you hear it as a a resounding gong saying that you are not worth it. You are not worth my time, my efforts, my money, my talent. False!You are a magnificent creature!

Take that resounding gong and shove it up it's own ass. If you were rejected from school, then what can you do to get in the next time you apply? Not hired for the job? What skills were they looking for? How can you improve? Make a mock resume that you ideally want to send out at one point. It can be the most flamboyant and crazy CV ever. You know why? Because when you can finally use it, people will be knocking down your door to have you.

'No' isn't the end of the world. It's a step to get you to what is truly right for your life.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Why Don't You... IT'S CHRISTMAS!! Ed-ish

  • Listen to Sufjan Stevens' Christmas Album, "Songs for Christmas" and just relax to the amazingness.

  • Eat gingerbread men 'til you pass out.

  • Stop pretending like you're all cool and just embrace wearing reindeer antlers (or a red nose) for a day.

  • Kick yourself for not making your house lights as cool as these ten houses.

  • Buy these Bill Murray prints for the Wes Anderson fan in your life (only $25). A Murray for all seasons!

  • Take your camera out in the snow and take some snapshots in the beautiful white snow! (For snowy locations only, unfortunately!)

  • Try to sit on as many Mall Santa laps as possible.

  • Make some paper snowflakes to hang if you find yourself missing snow.

  • Start planning your outfit for new years.

  • Make your entire family wear ugly Christmas sweaters while opening presents. Document every moment. Post online to embarrass all.

  • Start a new tradition. Whether it's the oldest opens presents first, family snowball fights, or a Christmas surf (wearing a santa hat of course).

  • Bust out your crock pot, pour in apple cider, oranges pierced with cloves, and brew. Spike with rum (is there any other way?) & enjoy.

Merry Christmas!

Monday, December 20, 2010

55 Things to do When it's Raining

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It's "Rain-pocalypse" in Los Angeles right now. I'm pretty sure it's been raining everyday since Friday and it's actually not planning to stop until Thursday. I'm itching to do fun things so here is a little list of things to enjoy while it's dreary outside.

  1. Ever thought to actually go play in some puddles? Put on your wellies and jump!

  2. Watch a new movie (OnDemand has tons for $5 & under.... or Redbox it. Or iTunes! or uh, Netflix!).

  3. Do your laundry (finally).

  4. Invite people over for coffee and talk about life.

  5. Turn off your phone and turn up your iTunes. Have a single person dance party.

  6. invite people over for a board game. How long has it been since you played one? I suggest Balderdash. Mixed with with a couple glasses of red wine. Fun guaranteed to ensue. I think I peed my pants the last time I played.

  7. Bake cookies. You know that as soon as you smell the cookies in the oven, you'll be glad you did this overdone list idea.

  8. Read that book that has been on your nightstand since you were 12. Seriously, when was the last time you opened it?

  9. Take a long bath complete with candles and bubbles.

  10. Plan your outfits for the next few days & try to make completely new ones you've never worn together before.

  11. Make an obnoxious coffee-shop type coffee.

  12. Everything smells crazy rich after a good rain. Go outside and smell the air and see how different it smells.

  13. Catch up on your magazine subscriptions.

  14. Catch up on your Google Reader.

  15. Play with your cat/pet so they don't go insane. Lucky spends every hour at home (we hide her from our landlords) so I'm pretty sure she's grateful when we bust out some catnip.

  16. Go bowling. Bowling is what you do when there is NOTHING to do. Perfect!

  17. Get the fire going in your fireplace.

  18. Get a remote control for your camera (I was gifted mine... best gift ever!) and take some self portraits. You need a new Facebook picture right?

  19. Call up mom and/or dad.

  20. Send a text to someone you haven't talked to in awhile.

  21. Practice walking in your heels.

  22. Give your surfboard some TLC and put some new wax on it. Scrape all the old wax off and start fresh.

  23. Announce your retirement (for a day) and then make a Jay-Z comeback.

  24. Make a video.

  25. Set custom ringtones for your most important friends.

  26. Color your hair (don't worry, you can always change it back).

  27. Build a bedfort. Set a password for anyone to enter.

  28. Plan your next getaway with some good friends and set a real, live date for it. Now you have something to look forward to during work/any other dreary days!

  29. Plan your (hypothetical?) tattoo.

  30. Watch some childhood movies.

  31. Give yourself a pedicure/manicure.

  32. Play on

  33. Meditate/Pray.

  34. Journal.

  35. Organize your life with a Filofax/Personal Organizer.

  36. Clean House.

  37. Exercise.

  38. Think of the good memories you've had in the past. Call up the friends you've shared the memories with and reminisce.

  39. Get an umbrella and take a walk.

  40. Eat chocolate.

  41. Make a green smoothie. Healthy and great tasting... clear up that cold you've been having from being in the water too much.

  42. Make your Bucket List. Start crossing things off.

  43. Volunteer.

  44. Switch off everything for the day. Be totally tech free.

  45. Go swimming at a local indoor pool.

  46. Listen to some old school music you totally thought was cool back when you were younger... Ace of Base anyone?

  47. Make a breakfast date with someone.

  48. Do your make-up. Go somewhere not in your sweats (totally unacceptable anyway! Sweats are for the house or yoga class!)

  49. Go to an arcade or indoor mini golf course.

  50. Drive around to find cool places and plan your next sunny days.

  51. go to the planetarium/observatory closest to you.

  52. Find free museum days in your area.

  53. Make friends with the bartender in your favorite bar.

  54. Try to find the most awesome happy hour with your friends. Winner gets their drinks paid for.

  55. Plan the perfect party (whether it's your birthday, new year's, anything).

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Keeping Life Weird.

I honestly had no clue what to write today. I admit it. I'm pretty creative when it comes to drawing and I can write (and bore you) with the deals of my
unpredictable and move-quality like days. I live in Los Angeles, as you know, and I stumbled upon a realization. There is a reason why people call Hollywood, "Hollyweird," and why Los Angeles is a melting pot of people.

People here are freaking weird.When I say, weird. I mean WTF weird. They do what they want, say what they want, wear what they want. What's the best part, they don't care what you think!

I finally realized this little gem of knowledge when I was walking around the interaction of Windward & Pacific down in Venice Beach, CA on Friday night. The glow of the strung "VENICE" sign was illuminating the crowd passing by as they hopped from bar to gallery then back to bar. Standing outside of Poseidon, the stand-up paddle board shop, a shaggy haired guy started talking to my friends and me.
"Hey, you ladies look like you like crystals. I sell these at Wasteland for $100 bucks, but I'll sell them to you for $20. If you buy three I'll sell them to you for $50!" he stated.

This dude, cleverly positioned outside of the shop directly across from an ATM, was sitting with this obnoxious-sized, bonsai-type tree with a few dozen crystal stone necklaces dangling from its branches. Man! Who are you Crystal Guy? I liked this dude and I really wanted a crystal necklace! Just because of how out-of-the-box this guy made himself out to be. The necklaces were actually pretty cool, the crystals were housed inside old bullet casings and hanging from a linked chain. Eclectic and unique. Alas, Crystal Guy's necklaces never made it into my life but I'm pretty keen to find him again.

Have you ever spent a good majority of your time tiptoeing around people because of what you think they wanted? It's rare that a person actually wants to spend their whole entire lives alone (those people are called serial killers). We want to be accepted so badly (well, most of us) that we are willing to dwindle that spiral of silence when our opinions and feelings are not part of the majority's. We should be like Crystal Guy. It's a waste of time to really care what people think of you. I particularly like this one quote by Eleanor Roosevelt:
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Decide what you want and go for it. Make your life unpredictable because of the risks that you take. And if you want your life to be routine and set, then that is fine too as long as it is what you want. I admit, I've been one of those overly sensitive people that really let things affect me. I had been too afraid to take risks and in return, my life hasn't been rewarded with the most memorable experiences. I have always played it super safe. I took the biggest risk of my life this September, I moved to California, and my life has been rewarded. I swam against the stream and found pieces of my life that I felt had been missing (I do, however, miss my life back home too! I mean c'mon... family? friends? I love them). Crystal Guy wanted to sell crystals. So he sells crystals. The ones who keep quiet about who they really are aren't the ones who get far. That is why expressing what you want is so important. If you want to be a full-time artist, MAKE IT HAPPEN.

Take the classes, find a mentor, spare every moment to your craft. If you want to be a surfer, get your ass out there (something I'm learning). If you want to be a cyclist, get involved in a co-op, get a bike maintenance book. Do what it takes to get where you want to be. Your life is a road of curves, forks, and tunnels you decide to take. No one looks back on their life and wishes they had less grass stains on their knees and went to bed early more often. Do not ever apologize for who you are.

To inspire & motivate, I leave you with Nadine Stair's poem that I have always loved:
I'd dare to make more mistakes next time.
I'd relax, I would limber up.
I would be sillier than I have been this trip.
I would take fewer things seriously.
I would take more chances.

I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers.
I would eat more ice cream and less beans.
I would perhaps have more actual troubles,
but I'd have fewer imaginary ones.

You see, I'm one of those people who live
sensibly and sanely hour after hour,
day after day.

Oh, I've had my moments,
And if I had it to do over again,
I'd have more of them.
In fact, I'd try to have nothing else.
Just moments, one after another,
instead of living so many years ahead of each day.

I've been one of those people who never goes anywhere
without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, a raincoat
and a parachute.
If I had to do it again, I would travel lighter than I have.

If I had my life to live over,
I would start barefoot earlier in the spring
and stay that way later in the fall.
I would go to more dances.
I would ride more merry-go-rounds.
I would pick more daisies.

Nadine Stair,
85 years old.

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Sunday Kind of Loves 12.19.2010

yimmys yayo

• MY PHOTOGRAPHY WEBSITE IS UP, somewhat... more photos to come. I've got some goals in place! • THIS!!! THIS is my DREAM home. Tucked away somewhere in a patch of forest, hopefully close to a bluff where I can still hear ocean • Rain • Gab talks with girlfriends • art shows • Venice, CA & all of its crazy people • meeting/helping a member of a band I love! • time for breakfast • smell of holiday wreaths • perfect rolly, gentle waves to practice surf on • Christmas lights • Percolator app • compliments • free tea with beautiful tea satchels • getting things done • seeing friends succeed • inspiration • hearing my parents' voices • dreaming of Chicago & a potential future trip • our cat, Lucky, and how she loves on everyone • getting to wear wedges/high heels • getting a good cry out (sometimes, you need it) • Financial help when you least expect it • learning to stand up for yourself • Target shopping • being in a long line to check out and then the next cashier over looks at you and says "open line, you next please," (!!!) • Ohio in 6 days (oh, my goodness I am so excited to see family • people serving you without you asking • reading during breaks •

Friday, December 17, 2010

Last Click 12.17.2010

This week has been hella busy! I still work part-time, I'm an intern, building a freelance photography/illustration business, & now I signed up for another part-time job. Is my plate too full yet? Either way, chill out and see what I've been scuffling through this week...

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Why Don't You 12.15.2010

  • Finish your holiday shopping, you only have one weekend left! Or DIY your gifts to give a loving touch.

  • Start a new creative project where you have to document something everyday. Document your face, your hair, your shoes, every new person you meet, etc. Make a tumblr/blog about it.

  • Snuggle up with some blankets and watch Christmas movies all day while eating gingerbread cookies (may I suggest the Trader Joe's ones? delish).

  • Ask her/him out already.

  • Go a week without buying anything (except necessities). Bike to work (if it's in the single digits, its DO-ABLE!), stop buying your daily addiction of coffee, buy only groceries and don't eat out, try on the clothes you already have to make new outfits.

  • Make plans and actually keep them. When someone asks "Oh hey, we should hang out," you should bust out your datebook/planner/phone and SET A DATE!

  • Purge the things you haven't used in over six months

  • Lend your favorite novels to friends who will enjoy them just like you did.

  • Assess your job and how you think you're doing. Ask for feedback from your co-workers and your managers. See how you can be an asset and not replaceable.

  • Hit the beach really early in the morning before a surf and just sit and watch the waves. Meditate on them and really thank your life for being able to experience such beauty!

Monday, December 13, 2010

Holiday Gift Guide: Your Favorite Shredders

We all have those crazy friends that keep shredding during the winter time. Luckily in California, it doesn't get too cold. Being from the Midwest, I still need to feel like winter still exists somehow! Warm up to your friends this holiday with a few of these faves: 1.) Roxy 3m booties to keep feet warm in freezing water. 2.) James Jean's beautiful WAVE II print would look beautiful framed on a wall. 3.) Ocean Green makes beautiful wooden surfboards for use and display. 4.) Someone that likes to read and ride waves? The wave bookend will nestle the greatest of novels and stacks of surfing magazines! 5.) My favorite magazines? Foam, Surfer, & Surfer's Journal. Gift a subscription to a friend! Hell, get 'em for yourself. 6.) Speaking of getting things for yourself, become a member of Surfrider (& gift a membership too!) and protect what is important to you. 7.) Warm your friend's head after their morning surf sessions with Yesstyle's cute beanies & hats 8.) You already video (and YouTube) the stupid stuff you do, why don't you GoPro the cool (okay and maybe still stupid) stuff you do. 9.) And finally, keep it sleek and simple with Nixon's Time Teller watch on nights out.

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Staying for the Sunset

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Yesterday I saw the most beautiful sight. It was my day off today and I woke up, without an alarm clock, at promptly 6:45 AM. What do you do at this God forsaken hour, you ask? Well, I started my day the usual way. Coffee (small, I can't drink much more) with hazelnut creamer, and a breakfast burrito. Around 8 AM I was at the beach in Venice, CA already and busted out my 9' longboard. It's a gun type of surfboard with a pointy nose and it's pretty narrow with teal rails and belly. So, question answered, I surfed for about two hours; went home; and went out again with my roommate around 3pm. Venice usually is unreliable with it's waves. Crumbly and poopy one day and totally amazing the next. Sunday was one of the latter. I had some good waves (that I actually caught) and was pretty close to finally getting some solid footing. I'm still horrible.

During the second session of the day, since we went late the sun was about to go down. We had about an hour and a half of sun light. With an aching hand (I got hit hard with a fin) and an aching head (another surfer ran into me and hit my head with his board) I watched for waves coming in. The ridiculously harsh sun was beating down on the blue dappled water and I had to cover my eyes every time I looked at the horizon. Every ten minutes the sun noticeably went down. Further. Then a little bit further. I was going to watch the sun set during my surf session.

Talk about being one with the ocean. With my arms resembling jelly, I floated past the break just watching the horizon. A stand-up paddler kneeled on his board in front of me, paddle across his lap, with the same idea I had. The sunset wasn't actually the most awe-inspiring part as you would think. I turned to face my right, and I saw all the little dots that were wetsuited surfers facing the same direction as I was just moments before. It amazed me how everything just stopped. All the competition, all the urgency, and all the chaos of paddling had come to a pause. Everyone was just so silent and watchful of the sky. We watched the sun as it settled into the water; it looked like it was submerging itself. Like a bright infallible god, it was falling asleep for the night; letting the dust fall on everything again for a few hours. Staring into the orange glow, it was like we were all thanking the sun for supplying us with life! We need the sun for so many things that we never really pause too often to admire the splendor; let alone from the vastness of the ocean. It was inspiring. I felt so much more connected to what I was doing presently. How often are we really present? More often than none, life feels like a routine. I know what to expect from work, I know what will happen after I clock out, I usually have the same expectations on my days off, and so forth. Why don't we watch more sunsets? Why don't we take a moment to pause? To turn off our distractions, whatever they may be? It's funny that a surf session I was actually getting mad and bitter at turned out to be one of the best I've had; mainly because I've learned something from it. Surfing can get so difficult but just like anything there is that same idea of being a constant learner. Maybe you need to pause more. Look at the sunset, look at your kid, look at your friend, and realize who or who is in your life. Stay for more sunsets, stay for the moment.

Sunday Kind of Loves 12.12.2010

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My appreciation of the week goes to these lovely things:

Bike rides to the Santa Monica pier • trying new craft beers • setting goals (always) • making plans • foggy surfing sessions •  good coffee • seeing my sister's growling picture pop up whenever she calls • people liking my photography • new mix CDs • attractive men • good dreams • warm days • rainy days when you need them • GETTING A BIG GIRL JOB! • having people say "yes" to you! • finding someone who shares your same dream • going surfing • movie marathons • getting new bath products • two weeks until I fly out for Christmas • Instagram! so fun! • getting along with people • having a support group • asking questions • setting up photo dates • courage • healthy comfort food *I'm addicted to Oxygen Magazine's recipe* • hot tea with honey on cool nights • loving your body (I'm always motivated to look better tho! can't be too healthy! :P) • hearing from old friends

Thursday, December 9, 2010

A little bit of my Christmas Wish List...

So I may want just a few things for Christmas. Here are some ideas to inspire your own for the surfer/fashionista chick in your life (who loves reading ;P)

1.) Coralie Bickford-Smith's book cover redesigns 2.) Shearling lined jacket 3.) Simple Times by Amy Sedaris & The Book of Surfing by Michael Fordham 4.) Sex Wax (or just wax in general) for surfboards 5.) Butter nailpolish in British Racing Green 6.) Duluth Pack Canvas Backpack in black 7.)Ripcurl's booties! need!

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Wednesday December 8, 2010

  • Buy some pots and plant an herb garden. From my experience, some essential herbs are Basil, Cilantro, Mint, & Oregano.

  • Ladies, get properly fitted for a bra. About 80% of us are shoving our girls into too tight bras or letting them, ahem, swing freely. Do yourself a service.

  • Plan a birthday party for your pet. Cake and all.

  • Try making a stop motion video. Grab your camera, a friend, some props, and make it all into a slideshow in iMovie. Add music & voila! Masterpiece!

  • Join and spend some time answering their quiz questions. Maybe you'll find your next lover there based on your answer matches.

  • Write the first line of your novel. Doesn't matter if you plan to write one or not. What would it say if you were to write it?

  • Brave the cold and jump on your surfboard. Get a hot breakfast after. I recommend The Brickhouse Kitchen in Venice, CA. Their Powerlifter Burrito is DELISH.

  • List everything you want in your life. Set dates to accomplish/have what you want. Be specific. (i.e. I want to have a house on the beach in La Jolla, CA by November 30, 2015)

  • Listen all the unplayed music in your iTunes library.

  • Start a style journal. List all the colors you like, shapes, designers, etc. Start modeling your wardrobe after this. Donate/Sell anything that doesn't fit this.

Leaving Your One Man Wolf Pack

I've been pretty much a loner all my life. In my case, a one woman wolf pack. I always felt like I could fend for myself and felt like I had the resources to do so. Times came where it was totally useful. I can go to eat by myself, I can go shopping by myself, I can go to a concert by myself, a party, etc. I'm extremely okay with it. I meet people that way and I don't depend on the people I already know. To be completely, honest; youNEED to know how to do this. People are not okay being by themselves. Give yourself a little space one week and take yourself out on a date. Bring a camera, a journal, and pens. You don't have to do anything you're uncomfortable with but just get used to the idea of being alone. Just try it. Look around for things going on in your city and pick one event to crash all by yourself. You're way more approachable when you're not surrounded by tons of your friends. Who knows who you will meet?

There were times I took my pack status a little too seriously. I felt like I didn't need anyone so the thought of introducing people into my life felt like a hassle. It was too much work (sometimes there was truth to that). But it just ended up with me being lonely and wanting that human companionship. I always wound up wanting someone to share my experience with.

"Remember that one time when...? Remember?" Was something I always wanted more of in my vocabulary. Today I learned even more the importance of sharing yourself with others. People are always afraid of sharing their dreams, wants, and needs with others. Somewhere along the way, we were told we should not do that. In all reality, it's completely vital! Today, I found out that my friend shared the same dream as I do. My utmost dream is to have a warehouse/collective in the city I live in where artists, surfers, & cyclists have a haven to dwell in; complete with art galleries, a coffee/work space, studio spaces, and the like. There is no way I could of pulled that off by myself. I mean, I can in my dreams but why would I want the idea to stay there?

Now this dream is going to take awhile. But with communication and companionship (uh, okay, and let's face it a ridiculous amount of cash-money) we can do it. We can make plans and build it brick by brick and step by step. You cannot keep your dreams holed up in your head because then you will never get anywhere. Just talking about this collective has made me feel invincible and motivated. Who doesn't want that? Sometimes we need to be alone, but when it comes to being pushed and achieving our goals, we cannot do it by ourselves. Once you tell people what you want to do, you definitely run the risk of having someone tell you "no," or "that's not possible," What you also do is open up crap tons of doors to people that can (and most likely will) help you. Pairs survive better in the wild (as Dexter realizes ;}). We need each other and we need to value the relationships that come our way. Everyone can help you learn a lesson somehow, you just have to let them.

Sunday, December 5, 2010

Sunday Kind of Loves - 12.05.10

Late night cruiser bike rides in Venice • friends that will bust open your bike lock for you when you lost your key • Movie days during overcast weather • Harry Potter marathons • building bed forts!! • Wine parties • Roasted red pepper and tomato soup from Trader Joe's • meeting new friends at the skatepark • being happy with the photos I take • Finding new shoe websites (!!! lust) • Having good work friends who get you tea when you're sick • new micron pens • new creative ideas for my artwork • Getting my christmas shopping done! woot! • Getting to play with my dream dog (Australian Cattle Dog) at a coffee shop • new crazy rings/jewelry • taking a day to pamper yourself • getting free stuff • good customer service • chivalry •

Thursday, December 2, 2010

Being a Constant Learner

I have a love hate relationship with surfing.

Now, I'm going to sound like one of those super cocky people when I say I'm usually pretty good at something on the first try. I can watch someone do it and mimic it pretty accurately. Surfing? Exact opposite. My pop-up looks like a convulsion and I tumble into the water with the most unnatural flailing of arms as I kick my board forward. Needless to say, I can get kind of frustrated when I go out. But I love it. Every tumble, I like to go back out. There are days where I am just not feeling well and I don't push it. But surfing has become an excellent opportunity to learn to just suck it up. To keep pushing because there are tons of people more skilled than I am. It doesn't reflect just in the water, but I feel more motivated to pursue other areas of my life. I've become more open.

The best learners are the ones who are open to suggestions. Not every suggestion is a good one and you can brush those off. You just have to consider the source. I really feel like the art of having a mentor or an accountability partner has dwindled. What better way to learn than from someone who is skilled in the art you want to pursue? I always have believed that if you don't ask, you don't receive. How are people supposed to know what you want if you do not express it? How will people know how to help you if you don't express the path that you want to take? I wrote yesterday to email/contact someone you admire. The worst thing that can happen is that you don't get a response. But that is not any form of rejection. You never were in contact with that person before, and you're not in contact with that person after the email. Your life has stayed the same.

So why are people so afraid to ask for help? I find for myself, I have an enormous amount of pride. I have a very, "Well, I can do it myself," mentality at times. No one likes a know-it-all! Do you ever see the look on people's faces when they become teachers? I recently was asked at work to help with hiring events and with training and, although small, I feel a tremendous amount of "life wealth" when I am finished. Not everyone has time to teach individually, especially if you're aiming for an It Person in some popular field... but maybe look at anything written by them. Study their success and their accomplishments. What did they do before they accomplished so and so task? Either way, a form of contact is important. Most people enjoy seeing others succeed because of something they did or said to teach the pupil.

Life is a classroom. Cliché, but there is nothing that cannot be taken from the day. Even if you sit inside all day, you can probably deduct that sitting inside all day bored on the couch is not a productive habit. There is always something to be learned. Find a mentor, make yourself available to learning opportunities, and don't be afraid to [always] ask questions.

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Why Don't you... // 12.01.10

  • Start a new book that you've always wanted to read. Better yet, start reading the classics this winter when you're all cooped up on cold days.

  • Hit the beach up, blanket & hot spiced cider in hand, no matter how chilly it is and watch the waves go by.

  • Experience the glory that is Intelligentsia Coffee. It is filled with FourSquaringhipsters inside but the coffee is so worth it.

  • Plan your perfect day from wake-up to bedtime with ridiculous elaboration (I'm talking 7am: wake up, 7:15 breakfast of pumpkin pancakes with whipped cream & caramel drizzled on top, 8am... etc.). I mean it IS your PERFECT day off. Follow it to a T on your next day off. Continue to do this every day off possible.

  • Learn to french braid for a new hairstyle

  • Email someone you admire and ask how they got their F&#!ing awesome job. Schedule a lunch date with them. Be persistent.

  • Call up Mom & tell her she's beautiful & that you can't possibly love her more.

  • Sit down and write. Finish this sentence: "I remember..." and write down everything you remember, no matter how long ago. Keep going for ten minutes or until you've filled up a page. (idea via Writing Down the Bones)